What’s Hiding Behind Your Hair Dye?

I decided to write this post after a really interesting conversation that I had with my mother. I’m going to share a little bit about my thoughts and feelings, but I’d really welcome you to chip in – particularly if you like colouring your hair!

I am, by true definition, a natural dark brunette. I’d never had any objections to my natural hair colour until I hit my teens and twenties. Suddenly, my naturally thick, brown, straight hair was boring and I wanted to be something different, so I had it layered and dyed it a deep cherry red.

The reason for the colour change was simple. So many people thought of me as nice, sweet and innocent that I wanted a change, I wanted to be noticed for me, the slightly goth/rock chick. I started wearing more rockabilly t-shirts and darker eyeshadow, and people did perceive me differently. I was more feisty and rebellious too – perfect!

But hair dye takes work, it takes maintenance, and eventually, I grew out of love with it. Not only that, but navy blue, my favourite colour on me, just looked comical with my red hair on days when I had to be sensible. To me, I looked like an oversized Union Jack!

So I decided, I’m letting my hair go back to brunette.

As I walked through the woods, my mother and I discussed my decision;

“I think I was doing it for the attention, I wanted to be noticed, I wanted people not to see me as boring,” I said painfully. That was the truth, if you don’t have wild hair, quite often, some people regard you as a bit prudent.

My Mum laughed, “maybe I’ve been doing that, too!”

My Mum sports some rather eccentric rainbow coloured hair. She’d promised my dying father that she would live a crazy and colourful life, and her hair was a testament to that. But was it, really? She grimaced and finally spoke, “I think I was hiding the pain inside”.

You see, I won’t judge anyone for anything they decide to do in life. If you’re 100% certain on a decision, go for it! But before you do, please spend a week or two asking yourself as to the reason why?

Why do you want or need crazy hair? A new tattoo? A new piercing? What are you trying to achieve?

I have nothing against anyone who wants to try something wild and whacky to feel “more like themselves”, a tattoo to commemorate a personal achievement or a piercing to accentuate a body feature, but if you’re doing it for anything else, why do you think it will fix things?

I’m not a therapist and so I can’t and won’t label or diagnose anyone. This is where I am inviting you to chip in and share with me your stories. Have you ever dyed your hair a crazy colour? Now dig deep, what was your real reason for doing it?

I look forward to reading your comments!

Until next time,

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen xx

4 thoughts on “What’s Hiding Behind Your Hair Dye?

  1. serendipitioushenanigan – Recent Graduate who has a love of writing the random, ridiculous and the sublime. This is my place to share all the is interesting things that I come across along my way.
    serendipitioushenanigan says:

    For me personally I’m gonna have to disagree. I have time through a long period of ill health and my hair feels like I’m part of my body that I have control. Also as a woman of colour I don’t actully dye my hair I weave or braid all different colours in my hair ( I currently have a blue/green weave in)
    I just love playing with my hair and having different colours and lengths and styles while I desperately try and convince my natural hair it wants to grow.
    But I do understand where you are coming from. Sometimes just a change of hair colour can make you feel stronger and more confident

    1. serendipitioushenanigan – Recent Graduate who has a love of writing the random, ridiculous and the sublime. This is my place to share all the is interesting things that I come across along my way.
      serendipitioushenanigan says:

      My health is something that is never going to ever get better and I’m staring down the barrel of surgery in my not to distant future. But it is what it is and can’t be helped. I think my nurses love me going to hospital as they never know what I’m going to look like. In some ways my hair does help me find confidence to leave the house. ( love a bit of positivity For strangers)
      But interestingly I have a friend who has trrible anxiety and she always dyes he hair all kind of colours and says it’s her mask to be able to get out into the world but everyone is very different.
      Thank you for your comment
      And I love your blog

      1. serendipitioushenanigan – Recent Graduate who has a love of writing the random, ridiculous and the sublime. This is my place to share all the is interesting things that I come across along my way.
        serendipitioushenanigan says:

        I hear you with cronic pain a good day is when I’m in a little bit of pain but I also have a rear condition that went unnotied for 35 yep 35 years so now they look at me like a medical miracle which is really boring now. And makes me feel like a bit of a freak ( maybe thats why I love crazy hair)
        I agree that adversity can change us I had a great aunt who came over just after windrush and at use to say to me child of I can survive what I did ( none of what she went through was good at all and she was invited here as a trained nurse) then anything can be got though with grit and determination. But I completely agree with what your dad says.
        I always get asked how I’m always smiling even though my Health is a sack of shit. To which I have no answer .
        Omg that outfit sounds amazing I but you looked great. But I know exactly how you feel me and my dad are really close and he also has cancer and it’s the worst feeling. Like you want to curl up in a ball but also that what I’m going through is nothing and my world will implode if my dad dosent make it.
        I send love and positive energy to you and your dad.

        I honestly haven’t shown my blog any love in the longest. So it’s a bit old now.

      2. serendipitioushenanigan – Recent Graduate who has a love of writing the random, ridiculous and the sublime. This is my place to share all the is interesting things that I come across along my way.
        serendipitioushenanigan says:

        I have those moments or my family when we are all together make bets on how long it takes me to fall over or just start twitching. Yep I’ve had a few little problems with my kidney over the years or the odd infection here and there they told it it was fine till it really wasn’t.
        Yep my aunt was the most amazing woman who taught me a lot about life and told me stories about the family. I still catch myslef using her sayings all the time.

        I’m so so sorry about your dad I can only imagine how painful it was espically not being able to n there at the end. You sound like you had an amazing relationship and were close And I bet you have some amazing memories that you cherish. It really can be much better being the the odd bod in the room it can make you feel special . I must admit yeah people do stay around longer if your happier but that dosent stop them wanting yiu to be normal (whatever that is).
        It sounds like you and your mum got closer after your dad’s passing and it sounds like you have a special relationship.

        I’m trying to stay positive about my dad he is doing well it was 2 years ago he was diagnosed and he is still here and fighting. So hopefully he can beat it ( fingers crossed) thank you go the wishes for my dad.

        Well I first started i just wanted somewhere to be able to write and hone some of my writing skills. But lately as I have been thinking I want to change it direction as I get further on my BDSM journey. But I’m still considering it. I’m still feeling a bit torn

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