Following the popularity of my last “What’s Up, WordPress?” ramble, I decided to stick with them from here on out. I thought it would just be something that I do and sort of forgot about given that it’s not really relevant to the blog, but it keeps coming up as one our most read posts! For that reason, I decided to bank on that success and merge our blog updates and life updates into one. So on that note, umm… what’s up, WordPress?
Around here, things have been kind of slow this month. You may remember that I’ve talked here and there about the mental image of a cantering horse and its symbolism in my life in terms of making progress, but not very fast? Well, that horse is cantering more now than ever. I have some stuff done, but heavens above does it feel like I’m doing a lot and not going very far!
So what’s been going on?
The “Bill” Is Settled (And I Got Some People In Trouble)
Whew! Do you remember a few weeks ago, I told you about our small debt? Well, first of all, we stopped calling it a debt, because “debt” is such a negative, dirty word. Instead, we called it a bill, and then we thought more proactively about how we were going to pay off said bill. We were working hard to try and find solutions, and my mother insisted that we allowed her to help out. I really didn’t want to because I believe that if she wasn’t around, we would have had to struggle and if you depend on the bank of Mom & Dad, then it can kind of become a habit later on. As strange as it sounds, I actually wanted to struggle, I actually want to learn to budget better and to become more resourceful, what will I learn if I just depend on Mum? Well, she begged me to let her, and with a “if this was me, you would want to help, too”, she had me where it hurts. Damn her, we really are too alike sometimes!
With the “bill” paid off, I agreed that I would formulate a complaint about the way that the situation was handled. We hadn’t received any mention of owing any money before, and to suddenly hear that we owed almost £400 (along with an “action plan” that warned of repossession of our home if we didn’t pay up) was quite a shock. I laid out the three points that I wanted to make, submitted it on our landlord’s feedback form, and expected nothing further.
But the next day, I got a phone call. Far from taking an attitude with me, the gentleman was actually deeply apologetic.
First of all, it was agreed that the text that I received should never have been sent. He’d taken my complaint up with the contact that was provided (who, apparently, is the Rent Accounts Manager) and it was agreed that the message was “unprofessional”, “aggressive” and “needed urgent reformatting”. He mentioned that my account shows that I am someone who normally pays our rent (albeit not quite enough, at least not until now) and it was clear that we were paying, or trying to pay, and so threatening us in such an aggressive way was unacceptable.
Next, our Estates Management lady got hauled over a barrel, because why hadn’t she communicated the debt to us? I was kind of peeved about that because she and I work well together in other areas, maybe she forgot?
Finally, my suggestion of a monthly rent rate as well as a weekly rent rate was hailed as “a very good idea” and “will be mentioned at the next manager’s meeting”. Again, really? Really?! It’s taking a tenant to come up with ideas like this, that they seemingly hadn’t considered before? I should start charging an hourly rate for my time.
Long story short, I may be nice and harmless most of the time, but you better believe that I know how to whoop some butt when it’s called for 😉
I’m No Longer The Crazy Fish Lady
Don’t worry! I haven’t given up on keeping my fish, it’s just that I’ve had to give up breeding and selling them. I raised some and sold them, and that went great, but then I raised some with the intention of raising them to adulthood and selling them once they got their colour, but they didn’t sell. Worse still, I had quite a few “drops” (batches of babies born from livebearing fish) between times. I estimated that I had about 30-40 fry to give away, but I couldn’t have been more wrong – I had 170! I managed to find new homes for them all, but I’ve had to give up on the idea of selling them. Fortunately, I do get still get plenty of requests for the fry (when I have them) but selling them just isn’t really working out. Instead, I’ve turned my fry tank into a shrimp tank (with 3 male Endlers for some colour and mid-level movement) and I will be getting some more shrimp in a few weeks time. There are also two additions, Lucky and Rebel, who are still swimming around, eating powdered fish food and waiting to grow up. They managed to evade the net several times, despite me netting out their brothers and sisters, so I gathered I’d let them grow up and settle in. Can you say “soft”? 😉
A Current Social Media Hiatus
At present, we aren’t using social media at all. When it comes to our blog, the only social media thing we use is the Facebook feed, linked through WordPress. Because of our niche and because of the strict rules that many social media giants have around sex and violence, it can be quite difficult to talk about our kinky lives without putting ourselves at risk of a ban. Not only, but a few weeks ago, I left Facebook after my mother encouraged me not to share my blog on my Facebook. I left that night so that I could live without feeling like I was hiding a huge part of myself, and I worried that I would miss Facebook afterwards. Instead, I felt free, and I felt free to live and to enjoy life. Instead of having to appear interesting, “normal” or feeling the need to check in, I was free to be me and to appreciate the small things that I’d normally miss while I was checking Facebook. We’re testing right now to see how well our blog can do without social media, or whether social media connections really are necessary for our success, after all.
I Really Am Back In Control!
No, not like that, but in terms of the other things that needed to get done. The note I’ve been meaning to write for PIP about my injury last year, given that I’m still experiencing pain when walking. I’ve also got the letter written regarding our plans for a conservatory, and I’ve drawn up the the floor plan to go with. I’ve also got on top of the housework and finally started to turn my attention to the garden, and it feels good! Just finally being able to get into a made bed instead of diving under a pile of everything that’s already on the bed like I had been doing for the past few weeks, it feels good. I’m still not “there”, but I’m getting “there”, wherever that may be!
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Alright lovelies, that’s it from us for now, but be sure to check back tomorrow for our second-to-last snack tasting… maybe 😉
Until next time.
Stay safe & have fun,
Helen & Matt xx