Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award

I would like to thank Simone of The Wheelchair Teen for this award. She is a wonderful writer, a talented illustrator and a truly delightful person to get to know. If you’re interested in reading from a young woman who passionately advocates for disability rights and shares uplifting and thought-provoking stories from her life as a  black, disabled teenager, be sure to visit her blog

Rules for the Award

  1. Thank the person who has nominated you and provide a link back to their blog.
  2. Answer their questions.
  3. Nominate up to 9 other bloggers and ask them 5 new questions.
  4. Notify the nominees through their blog by visiting and commenting on their blog.
  5. List the rules and display the “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award” logo.

Simone’s Questions

1. What type of music do you like?

I’ve always been a pop/rock lover, though I do like a bit of classical music and even some relaxing jazz. Actually, jazz is hugely underappreciated in my era. I’ve found so much joy lately in a clean lounge, soft lighting and relaxing jazz, maybe with a glass of wine and a candle or two on the go as well. A lot of my music preferences depend on what I’m doing.

2. What would you like to see happen to your blog in the next year?

Of course, I’d like to see it grow. If I can get to 200 followers by December, that will be good. 250? Amazing. 300? Absolutely incredible!

3. What are your favourite and least favourite aspects of social media?

My favourite undoubtedly has to be being able to connect with people. It doesn’t happen often, but it’s always nice when it does. My least favourite though is the level of inauthenticity on a lot of platforms. People have to be made up and have perfect homes and perfect smiles and postures and you just know that something isn’t quite right, but it looks good. I personally know a young man who posted a picture of what looked like him sat on a really high cliff a few weeks ago, but when I looked up the rock formation, the height between the ledge and the ground is only about eight feet, even though he made it appear considerably higher by using angles. So much of what you see on social media is all angles and special effects and people chew you out for being real and honest because reality is often too ugly to share. I can’t be dealing with that, my life is usually disorganised chaos and it doesn’t make for pretty photos!

TikTok is my latest pet peeve. People insulting or pranking one another for fame? I just think it’s so sad that people are willing to risk their lives, their belongings, their jobs or their friendships and relationships for a prank. I know I sound kind of boring saying that but fame can change hands in a heartbeat and all of those followers can and will unfollow you as soon as you do something that they don’t like. What when you’ve smashed up your home for a video and a few months or years later, people have moved on from your channel, what then? Your best friend of fourteen years, are they really worth kicking in the groin for a few thousand most-likely-temporary likes? Come on…

4. Which film/book/TV-show has impacted your life the most and how?

Honestly, I think that has to be Fifty Shades of Grey. A lot of people in the kink community don’t like it and yet. I think for all of its flaws, it’s got people talking about BDSM, it’s got other people realising that it’s not what they thought it was and in some cases, it convinced people that they might even like to give it a try! Before Fifty Shades, BDSM was very hush-hush, it was a thing that a lot of grown-ups did and nobody ever talked about. Now, a lot of people have seen the movies, a lot more people are talking about it and friends are discovering friends who are into it, who they can talk to about it and who accept them more wholly. It hasn’t eliminated the stigma, but I think it has definitely helped to reduce some of it. I also think that it helped to portray the combination of work, life and kink that is true in most D/s relationships. Okay, so most of us aren’t multi-billionaires and that part is highly fictitious, but most people aren’t wearing leather or latex all day everyday like I have seen in some other kinky movies, most people are working in stores or offices and most people do have family commitments and studies, so I feel like the movie actually helped to portray how normal (at least a little bit) our lives really can be.

5. Superheroes? Yes or no?

Only if it’s DC! Or Marvel’s Black Widow. I grew up with Batman, my Dad loved Batman, so that’s basically all I know. I even have Batman pyjamas that were bought for me but there’s something funny about them – they’re missing a “na”! I kid you not, they read “na na na na na na na na na Batman”. My brother was the first to point it out and now I can’t unsee it!

My Questions

  1.  Will you be celebrating Pride Month? If so, how?
  2. The G7 summit is being held in Cornwall, and Cornwall is known for surfing. Have you ever tried surfing? How did you get on?
  3. Cornwall is also famous for its Cornish pasties, but on Great British Bake-Off 2019, the contestants had to make their own pasties. If you were on the show, what would your pasty filling be?
  4. If you could change one thing about your blog, what would it be and why?
  5. What is your favourite daily routine, and why is it your favourite?

My Nominees

I am nominating this award to:-

Jrvincente – An absolutely brilliant erotica writer and a regular commenter. Well worth the award!

Lifesfinewhine – A great fashion and inspirational blog. I absolutely love your blog and enjoy engaging with you often.

Rope & Roses – Join Bill for a variety of interesting topics, including the environment, kink and living with Chronic Kidney Disease.

Still Searching For Prince Charming – A great relationships blogger. Thoroughly enjoyed working with you on various recent projects.

A Barbarian In Gentleman’s Clothing  – Join Mr A for men’s fashion and more. You’ve supported me before, fair is fair!

Finally, if I haven’t nominated you for this award and you would like to take part, please feel free 🙂

Until next time,

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen xx

13 thoughts on “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award

  1. I’m so happy that you accepted the award! I really loved reading your answers. And thank you for the extremely kind words about my blog ❤ My music preference also depends on what I’m doing. If I’m studying, I usually like to listen to classical music without words to help me focus. I like to listen to rap when I feel driven and inspired by the intelligent black youths rapping about the beauty of being black and making a difference in the world [not the braggy, sexualised kind]. I listen to a lot of rock and pop during the day and also have a lot of songs in different languages. Yes, I think that connecting with people is one of the greatest sides of social media too and I also hate how fake people can be. I’m so glad you like DC! I LOVE DC too! I have multiple superhero pajaymas as well and absolutely every inch of my wall is covered in superhero posters XD. I’ve actually been making my way through the old Batman the Animated Series show because I recieved dvds of both the two seasons for my birthday.

    1. You’re more than welcome and thank you! Right?! Like right now, I’m listening to Darius Danesh – Rushes, I love it, it’s instrumental, catchy and upbeat. I love Darius, and I shamefully know Colourblind and Rushes word for word haha. Wellerman (Sea Shanty) by Nathan Evans is another favourite I often listen to while I’m blogging, whereas every evening at 9pm, the Google speaker in our bedroom plays relaxing classical music, as I programmed it to do. Music in different languages is interesting and it’s something we try to do when we do our snack tastings. If you like pop/rock, I highly suggest checking out Israeli music, though personally, I loved Ukrainian and Bulgarian music and I also love Alexander Rybak, who is Belarusian. I think the fakeness is what puts me off of social media, honestly. I just feel like a lot of the time my life isn’t that interesting up to the (probably fake) stuff, so I just get on with living it instead haha. Have you seen the Harley Quinn series is back, I think it’s on Channel 4, if you can get it in the Netherlands? It’s voiced by Kaley Cuoco and I always watch it if ever i’s on when I pick up the remote, although I’m kind of a bit fickle because I love police shows or stuff like Nothing To Declare (it’s amazing the stuff people try to smuggle sometimes!) too, I also have my other guilty love… How It’s Made. I feel like such a nerd now! 😀

  2. I so know what you mean about people being “fake” on social media. A (male) friend of mine posted three pictures taken minutes apart on Facebook. One where he looks overweight, one where he looks normal, and one where he looks ripped. It was all about lighting, pose, and angles.

    I am SO in agreement with your assessment of 50 Shades. I read it a couple of times and even though there are some things that are questionable, I think it did a good job of opening the door to the conversations for the “average” person. It’s not a manual. It’s a fiction novel. (Also, I think a lot of people read or see excerpts that sound terrible out of context, but actually aren’t bad at all when you read the whole book.)

    1. Oh yes, it’s quite amazing how that can happen. I think the one for me is my brother, who has never ever once considered himself political and uses election day to prat about and doodle on the papers, but on Facebook, he’s full of advice and opinions and trying to influence how people vote. I’ve personally all but come off of Facebook now – WordPress is so much better!

      Yes! I had a conversation (with my neighbour, funny enough, who I mostly don’t get along with!) about the books and even he said that the “non-consensual” parts were somewhat consensual, if you look at the dialogue. I think I kind of took inspiration from Fifty Shades in a way, as well as my other partner, Bill, who has written about ‘Chris and Stacey’, a fictional D/s couple on a normal budget. I think that was part of what inspired me with these more recent posts was the reality of it all, how ‘un-kinky’ (it’s my new favourite, made-up word!) it all is, and how in these dynamics, it’s not an overtone, if anything, it’s an undertone. You almost wouldn’t know it was there if you didn’t know about it, or didn’t go looking for it!. Fifty Shades is great for fantasy, but the reality of D/s is far, far different.

      1. Exactly. More than anything I think the fact that it was so popular should be a wake-up call as to how many people might actually like to give it a try!

  3. I’m a big fan of Alexander Rybak too – I get introduced to a lot of European music like his through Eurovision. YES, I really enjoy watching Harley Quinn! Poison Ivy is my favourite character❤

    1. Ooh yes! We watch Eurovision too. Eurovision was how I discovered him and I still have ‘That’s How You Write A Song’ on my phone haha. I even voted for him to win! Ooh yes, I loved Michelle Pfeiffer as Catwoman too but I didn’t like it when Halle Berry played her. She’s a talented actor but I felt as though there was too much CGI in the movie, it would have been much better with less animated jumping around and more stunts by Halle, I think.

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