40 Kinky Personal Questions – Answered!

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Have you ever wondered about the answers to these kinky questions? Then wait no more!

Following the overwhelming popularity of my post, 45 Questions Americans Have For British People- Answered!, I decided to try something a little different today. Given the nature of this blog, I thought Id have a snoop around and see if there wasn’t something similar for kinky people. I found this list of fourty kinky questions on Daddy’s Naughry Little Girls blog so I thought I’d get involved and give it a go. Enjoy!

1. Have you ever had sex in three or more positions in one session?

Two, maybe. Three? We were agreed that three is a bit too many. I like getting down to the action 😉

2. Have you ever had sex continuously for 1 hour or more?

No. For me, that’s a almost a guaranteed ticket for a UTI. I’d love to say that I love slower, more drawn-out sex, but I find that it gives me issues nearly every time, which is unfortunate.

3. Have you ever devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity (with breaks for eating, etc)?

Maybe in our earlier days. but we were both depressed, both felt safe and at ease with one another so we spent a lot of time getting the rest that we weren’t getting when we were apart. Sex, shower, sleep and repeat – It wasn’t healthy, but we’re in a much better place now and that’s what really matters.

4. Have you ever been so loud having sex that housemates/neighbors commented or complained?

Not complained, but definitely commented. My neighbour is a young, single lad, so you know, for him it probably saves on the subscription service!

There was a time that he used to brag about how good he was in bed and Matt used to make sure that he heard our antics. It was like a PornHub-style pissing contest!

5. Have you ever had your sexual technique/style/skill openly praised by someone?

Ahem… “Kryptonite”, “dangerous weapon”… I could go on.

My mouth is good for more than just words, you know? 😉


6. Have you ever written an explicitly erotic story?

Cumming soon 😉 (Sorry, I couldn’t resist!)

7. Have you ever brought your partner to orgasm using only your hands?

Oh heavens, plenty of times. There’s nothing wrong with a handjob in front of the TV when the mood strikes 😉

8. Have you ever licked or sucked on someone else’s feet and/or toes?

I can’t say as I have. I can’t say as I want to, either. It’s not something that does it for me. Some people would find it kinky though, and that’s totally okay.

9. Have you ever had sex with someone you’re not married to?

Yep

10. Have you ever had sex with someone who’s married to someone else?

Not yet 😉

11. Have you ever had sex simultaneously with two people—MMF? MFF?

I once came pretty close to a MFF with a cute goth girl, which would have been fun, and we still talk about the ‘Number 7 girl’ to this day. Basically, so the story goes, we went to a pub/bar for dinner with my to-be father-in-law and the bar girl saw my engagement ring and commented on it. It was her “are you guys engaged?”, the way she said it was music to my ears. Matt and I dig quirky, quiet Gothic/Emo girls, though I also love girls that I can laugh with and that have a sensual side. Had Matt’s Dad not been with us, who knows how that story might have ended?!

As for an MMF, I think that’s a common fantasy for women. Women love to feel desired, so being shared by two men? Of course we dig that too!

12. Have you ever had anal sex?

Not yet, but Matt wants to!

I’m not adverse to anal play, but I have to be in the mood for it. Also, anal play needs to be something that isn’t forced. I once met a guy who kept rubbing his dick against my ass through my jeans while we looked at the boats on the harbourside in Bristol and he basically done himself out of a second date. and therefore anything anal. Don’t be that guy!

13. Have you ever gone out in public while wearing an anal plug?

No, and that’s a hard limit for me. I don’t believe in doing anything kinky or sexual where there is non-consenting people around, especially minors.

14. Have you ever been told you’re dirty because of the things you say?

Not dirty, no, and I think that ‘dirty’ is such a negative word here. I’ve definitely been told that I have a “filthy mouth” in the bedroom, and that was definitely not negative at all! “Sexy” comes up a lot, much more than dirty. Dishes are dirty, not people.

15. Have you ever gotten really turned on by saying or hearing dirty talk?

I’ve met a few cunning linguists, yes…

16. Have you ever had sexual fantasies related to or involving submission, domination, suppression, forced intercourse, infliction of pain, bondage, hot wax, nipples clamps, etc…?

This is me we’re talking about here, yes, of course I have! I think my kinky fantasies sort of go further than any session ever has though, one of which you can read here.

17. Have you ever been involved in any sexual activities you would describe as kinky?

Oh all the time. Once you start with the breeding kink, you don’t look back 😉

18. Have you ever realized that you are much more sexually open-minded/kinky than most of your previous partners and/or friends?

I think, and only because I’m open-minded about things like blood and sharing, then maybe. Some people know what they like and that’s that, and other’s of us are more open to considering new ideas. I don’t think it’s right to judge though. As the saying goes, one person’s “kinky” is another person’s “normal”.

19. Have you ever been part of an S/M roleplay (master/mistress/slave), domination (as the dominant/submissive part), or being victim of pain (such as whipping, caning, hot wax on genitals, nipple clamps/genital clamps etc.)?

I had to stop and take a breather with this question, because victim… Victims don’t consent to what happens to them, BDSM practitioners do.

Semantics aside, then yes, I’ve been involved in S&M play. What’s a Friday night without dinner, binds, candles and sensation play? Boring, that’s what it is 😉

20. Have you ever identified as bisexual–to yourself? to partners? to friends?

Bi-curious to myself and my husband, yes, maybe even my friends, but not bi-sexual. An old friend (that I kind of had a girl crush on) told me that she couldn’t see herself with me because I was “more like a sister to me”. Ouch…

21. Have you ever fantasized about or practiced orgasm control/denial?

Orgasm denial is how bodies end up in a bag at the bottom of the river, seriously! It’s just not a game that you want to play with me. The first time or two it’s kind of hot, and then my brain is just like “you know what, boo? He ain’t gonna let you. You might as well get up and do other things”. I get moody and just feel like the whole session is a waste of time. If you want to fuck me again, don’t ruin my fun. I will remember.

22. Have you ever daydreamed about sexual activities exceeding what most people consider “normal” sex?

Umm… yes, I would say so! I often recall the time that I was in a bar and I could not get it out of my head that the tables looked like spanking benches. I had to forcibly remind myself that it was a non-kink setting and how I had to behave!

23. Have you ever gotten really turned on by fantasizing about/witnessing gay or lesbian sex?

I have an affinity for gay porn, yes, I just think that sensuality between otherwise rough, tough guys is incredibly hot. True story, Matt stripped off on camera once and accidentally aroused a bunch of men. He was horrified and ashamed of his actions but I was more annoyed by the fact that he hadn’t communicated with me first. I was maddeningly turned on by it and wanted to share him in ways that I’d never thought of before. It’s very hard to be mad at someone when their confession turns you on, let me just tell you!

As for lesbian sex, then yes, I’ve definitely fantasised about a night of passion with a woman – quite a few times, in fact!

24. Have you ever tried scissoring?

Yeah sure, I scissor things with my craft scissors all the time. Oh, you mean as in…? Then no. and I don’t think I would, either. I’d have to be convinced – by a woman – that it was actually enjoyable for the involved parties. Plus. I have a shameless oral fixation…

25. Have you ever performed oral sex on a man?

Oh yes! Sometimes I’ll just be laying on Matt’s side and then one thing leads to another and before you know it…

26. Have you ever performed oral sex on a woman?

Not yet, but I want to.

27. Have you ever received oral sex from a man?

Love it! There’s a difference between a man who does it because it turns you on, and a man who does it because it turns him on. The latter are like an instantaneous orgasm for me. When he groans at the taste of you… oh my!

28. Have you ever received oral sex from a woman?

Nope. I’m open to it, but it’s not something I’m quite as mad for. For some reason, I always see myself as alpha if I were with a woman.

29. How old were you the first time you had sex?

18.

30. Where?

Matt’s creaky old metal-framed bed. There were no rose petals or candles, trust me.

31. How many partners?


Three, but we don’t really count the third. It was so awkward, I pulled the “I’m really tired, maybe we should just get some sleep” card. He was super-submissive and wanted me to be in control of the whole thing. No thank you, sweetie.

32. Have you ever practiced BDSM on yourself (bondage, nipple clamps, hot wax, suction, electro-stim, etc etc etc)?

Oh brother, you know how kids manage to wind up plastered in felt tip markers? Now you know how I am with a dinner candle. No idea how it got there, I just blinked and it happened!

33. Have you had more or fewer lovers than your current partner?

Matt and I are even. I don’t know about the other two, that’s not really my business.

34. Have you ever had sex in front of other people?

Can we count open curtains? If so, then yes, and there were definitely people outside. Fucking when all that stands between you and them is a net curtain? The bastard did all he could to try and make me scream, too…

35. Did you know them?

They live around I think, so maybe?

36. Did you like it?

Matt nor I knew we were really exhibitionists until I journaled about it and how much it turned me on, or rather, I’d noticed how much it turned him on. The fact that it turned him on, turned me on. Now it’s a regular thing!

37. Have you ever had a crush on a fellow blogger here on WordPress?

I love them dearly, but no, I haven’t.

38. Have you ever met anyone through AFF, OKCupid, Kassidie, or another site?

Does Slowly count at this point?

39. Have you ever had an orgasm without any direct stimulation (not counting dreams)?

I’ve fucked a stranger on the roof of a high-rise building and I’ve fucked a farmer (who I’d previously met, and had a pretty immediate crush on) on the hay bales in a barn, both hands-free, both alone in my bed. Once I mastered the art of thinking myself off… well, I was a changed woman! 😉

40. Do you like being called dirty names during sex?

There’s that ‘dirty’ word again…

Do I like being called names during sex? Pet, fucktoy, slut… cumslut doesn’t work for me and neither does whore. Pet, princess or babygirl, said in a really condescending tone… I’m giving far too much away here! I think a lot of it depends on the person, too. I think if Matt called me babygirl, I’d probably fall about laughing! He actually does it sometimes to mimick Don Massimo Torricelli. It’s absolutely hilarious and simultaneously kinda hot…

That’s it for this list! Do you have any kinky questions that you’d like me to answer? Leave them in the comments below or drop me an email and I will answer it in a future post!

Until next time..

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen xx

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