TMI Tuesday, 05th October 2021

A fun pot pourri of questions for this TMI Tuesday.

I’m back for another week! I know some of you are really enjoying this chance to get to know me better, so let’s play TMI Tuesday!

What Is TMI Tuesday?

TMI Tuesday is a series of questions generated by TMI Tuesday Blog. It is a great way to meet other bloggers and to share some personal thoughts and experiences. It is important to remember that there are no right or wrong answers to these questions, only the answers of the author –  and that’s part of what makes this tag so awesome! 

How To Play TMI Tuesday

Copy the below TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Send Me Your Questions!

Do you have something you’ve been itching to ask? Maybe something food-related, something a little bit kinky or something completely random? Have fun with it, then be sure to check back next Tuesday for my answer!

1. I’m so jealous, I wish I was _____ .

Literally anyone with a nice garden and a peaceful neighbourhood right now! My neighbours are assholes and my garden is overgrown with weeds. I would consider most things for the complete opposite to be true at the moment!

2. When would you seek help from a sex therapist?

I had to really think about this one because I’d like to think that a lot of things can be resolved with effective communication. I think, maybe, if something was going on physically, something whereby my partner and I wanted to have sex, but physically we couldn’t; medication side effects, a serious health condition, something like that. Oh, also and on a similar line, let’s say something serious happened that affected physical attraction. Maybe I would consider it then to try and find a way to get that spark back as well.

3. How do you break up with a friend?

You know, I don’t believe in just ditching friends for really petty reasons. People are people, and people can have different interests or differences of opinion without necessarily breaking up friendships. I was a Brexiter (the impact on the fishing industry predominantly, before anyone thinks that I’m a closeted racist), I have friends who were pro-Remain and you know what? That’s completely fine. They have their reasons, I have mine. Friendships are more naunced than a difference of opinion and anyone who can’t respect that frankly isn’t worth losing sleep over anyway.

That being said, this question is about breaking not making and maintaining friendships, and so I’m going to tell you about the two times when I’ve had to. In truth? I ghosted them both, and that was because they hadn’t respected me for a long time, so I didn’t feel as though they earned any respect back. To be clear here, one spiked my drink (with more, stronger alcohol) and managed to stage a mass walkout on my 20th birthday party, the other was a senior school friend who was using my home like a crèche and treated me like a refuge when she had a huge, nearly-violent fall-out with her parents, begging me to help her and staying with us rent-free for ten days, but then went back home to her parents and went back on everything in spite of me doing all I could to help her stay safe and find emergency housing, There were also several incidences whereby we’d arrange a get together and then she’d just not show up and text me the next say saying that she’d “forgot”, or there were other times she’d want something that I was selling on eBay and she’d take the item home with her and promise me payment, but that payment then never came. The last time I saw her, her son (then seven at the time) had soiled himself and was biting and kicking her for attention while she laughed at how apparently defenceless she was in this situation. We arranged another catch-up for another time after that and again, she let me down. That was when I decided that I’m better off without her, I’m a better friend than either of them are and I’m worth more.

Oh, the latter friend also messaged Matt about a month later to ask him why I’d blocked her as well. I emailed her (I don’t let other people deal with my beef for me), she apologised profusely for being a bad friend, I forgave and we arranged another catch-up. Guess what she did one last time? Safe to say, I don’t miss either of them.

4. Give us a tip to turn a bad day around.

Nap. Seriously, naps are life. Only for 10-20 minutes though, otherwise you feel groggy and horrible.

Oh, and snuggles too. I do love a good snuggle after a hard day. I get called “snuggle slut” for a reason…

Bonus: Do you feel drowned by social media?

Nope! I don’t use social media anymore, really. My Mum hits me up on Facebook messenger occasionally but besides that I just don’t bother with it at all, and honestly it feels great! There are so many policies for what you can and can’t say, share or not share, you’re not really free to be you anymore. On Twitter, you get trolled for having an opinion different to the general consensus. On Instagram, your pictures have to be worthy and be well tagged to even stand a chance of being noticed and on Facebook, your life needs to look interesting and eventful. Honestly, since giving up social media, I haven’t missed it one bit. I don’t check news stories, visit Instagram reels, anything;. I have a kind of peace of mind of mind now that’s hard to explain. I don’t know celeb gossip because Twitter isn’t feeding me it constantly. I don’t know if anything is missing from my life because I don’t know what the latest trend is. Loads of people were freaking out over yesterday’s Facebook-WhatsApp-Instagram blackout, I didn’t feel it one bit!

That’s it from me for this TMI Tuesday! Join me next week for the next round! Do yo have any questions for me for next week? Don’t forget to leave them in the comments below!

Until next time,

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen xx

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