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What Is TMI Tuesday?
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And now, onto the questions…
1. What keeps your life exciting?
My never-ending to-do list! Haha. Seriously, it’s at 112 (111 after this post!) things to do today and I put that largely down to anxiety because of, you know, global politics. I’m one of those people, I catastrophize (no thanks to two parents who used to whisper “oh shit!” everytime there was a war in some faraway land) and got their news from sources like The Sun. I will get through it all, maybe…
2. What is something you do to embrace your insecurities?
I practice mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, but bear in mind that I’ve had therapy not less than four times in my life, so I’m sort of something of a seasoned client (though certainly no professional!) by now. CBT Therapy teaches you to change up the narrative, so rather than thinking “oh my god, I can’t believe I did X, I’m so stupid!” I think “hey, I did X and that was a mistake, but that’s okay, everybody makes mistakes sometimes”. Instead of thinking “I’m so ugly” I think “I may not be what some people look for, but there are still people out there who do find me attractive”. Also, meditation and positive affirmations. It takes practice to truly get to a happy place though – lots and lots of practice, and don’t be afraid to STILL slip up sometimes. Usually in the autumn/winter, no amount of positive self-talk and meditation can get this girl out of her funk!
3. Where do you find joy on the internet?
Good News Network – I know, I know, it’s cheesy as hell but I love it. It gives you a bit of hope in all of the bleakness.
4. There is going to be an exhibition in your honor. What 5 things from your life must go on display? Why those particular pieces?
Gah, five things? I don’t know if I can name five things. Okay, okay, let’s see…
- My model Tudor castle – It’s in my Mum’s attic, it’s made out of papier mache and polystyrene tiles and it’s amazing! It’s a long story, so here goes…
My year (I think it was year 7, or first grade high school for my American readers) had a competition and we had to pair up and build a model of a Tudor castle, because we were studying the Tudors. A classmate of mine wanted to pair with me and I agreed – BIG mistake!
S came up and she spent much of the time chucking around balls of kitchen roll soaked in glue-water solution, sticking it to the dining table etc. Naturally my parents were livid, so I got sent to my bedroom (guilty by association) and S got thrown out and banned from the household. When it came to the project then I was now a man down, and since everybody else was already paired up, I was on my own.
Of course Mum felt bad for me, so in the end she agreed to help me and we sourced a book on Tudors from the library and basically 3D built the illustrasted castle out of polystyrene tiles, papier mache, and paint. Not done there, we then used modelling clay to make a little banquet, coloured card to make a banquet table, cocktail sticks and cooking foil to make an armoury (and a dungeon, which I was fascinated with for reasons now known!) and pipe cleaners to make little pipe cleaner people – we even added a moat and a working drawbridge!
I still remember that afternoon well, I was about to head home for the day and a few of my classmates were looking for me, and told me to go to the school hall because Mr T (not THAT Mr T!) wanted to see me. Mr T was our Deputy Headmaster, so I was really confused because I was a shy kid/good girl back then, so I knew I hadn’t done anything wrong. It turns out that my castle had won first place, and S was already there trying to claim half the prize, only to be denied because my Mum had included a letter in with the castle to tell the school what S had done. In the end, the full first place £30 WHSmiths vouchers were awarded to me, to which my nerdy ass spent it all on books to study for my GCSE’s, but yes, I’m very proud of the castle!
Okay, okay… what else?
2. My 1st place junior dog handler trophy – Dogs have been a part of my life, all of my life; from when I was tiny, right up until now. I entered a junior dog handling competition with our Welsh collie, Brecon, and I remember them saying “in first place we have the girl with the Collie” and I’m just stood there looking around, waiting for her to come forward so I can clap, and then I looked down at Brecon and he’s looking back at me with all of his whole ten brain cells working at full throttle, and that was when it clicked, Brecon was a Collie – they meant me!
Here’s Harvey and me when I was a baby, and Brecon and me later. I was close to both of them, can you tell?
3. This will surprise a few of my readers, my scrapbook. I keep a scrapbook, and in it I have all kinds of sentimental things, like stickers from some of the countries we’ve tasted, photos of my family in better times and even a copy of our Order Of Service. It also has the cinema ticket from our very first date in there too, that still very faintly reads ‘Hot Fuzz‘. I’ve got the train tickets from our honeymoon and our entertainment passes in there as well – as well as the crazy golf card on which we both drew +27 – because I’m definitely not an old sap like that… I’m definitely not very good at crazy golf, either!
4. My wedding dress, and my drawing of my dream wedding dress. After giving notice of intent to marry, I drew roughly what I wanted my dress to look like while I was sipping a tea in a café. After that, I would not budge until I found something as close to what I wanted, or as close as I could possibly get (what can I say? We Virgos are kinda perfectionists…). My Mum was super frustrated with me and my pickiness, so in the end she told me to have a look on Ebay and see if I could find something I liked. I was horrified by the idea because I knew that while there are some good sellers on Ebay, there are some… not-so-good sellers, too. I found one that I liked, that had everything that I dreamed of, from the appliqué lace to the lace trim and the lace-up back. It was only £275 and I was really concerned that the quality would be terrible, but I ordered it anyway and waited. It didn’t come with un underskirt, but besides that it was perfect. All in – with a veil, shoes, gloves, underskirt and a tiara, my dream wedding dress cost me less than £500 – and it was almost identical to what I’d imagined and drawn!
5. Some of my writings, because when push comes to shove, my writing style is kinda what I’m known for. Who knows, maybe I’d make some of my private journal entries accessible, too?
5. I do not want to do _____ . Please do not make me _____ .
There’s only one answer here for me really, and that’s drugs. My mother and brother have tried to talk me into cannabis and magic mushrooms before, and I’m just not interested. I’m happy for them that they’ve found their way, but for me? I’d much rather journal and meditate.