TMI Tuesday, 26th July 2022

A man camping and enjoying a sunset, camping

Who’s back for another round?

What Is TMI Tuesday?

TMI Tuesday is a series of questions generated by TMI Tuesday Blog. It is a great way to meet other bloggers and to share some personal thoughts and experiences. It is important to remember that there are no right or wrong answers to these questions, only the answers of the author –  and that’s part of what makes this tag so awesome!

How To Play TMI Tuesday

Copy the below TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Send Me Your Questions!

Do you have something you’ve been itching to ask? Maybe something food-related, something a little bit kinky or something completely random? Have fun with it, then be sure to check back next Tuesday for my answer!

And now, onto the questions…

1. Would you rather be attracted to for your body or your mind?

Definitely my mind. Looks fade, but a personality lasts forever. Also, and quite bizarrely, more people have been attracted to me when I’ve been on the cuddlier side of things, confident and pretty “basic” than ever were when I was slim, anxious and wore make-up every day. That’s just food for thought.

2. What would be more embarrassing for you out in public–to be seen tripping or adjusting your “package”?

Definitely to be seen tripping. Tripping implies a loss of control, and I’m generally in control (but not controlling, and there is a difference there). Adjusting myself? Eh, that’s just my business, and I would always pull aside to somewhere discreet if there were adjustments to be made. As for being caught? Mind your own business, not mine.

Fame? No, thanks

3. If you are going to be famous what is it for?

This is going to sound really cliche, but if I’m going to be famous, then it’s going to be for being completely and authentically me. We live in a world where everybody is trying to be somebody else, somebody famous, interesting or popular. We live in a world of sheep, where so few people are prepared or willing to be wolves – I’m a wolf, and I have always been a wolf. I don’t follow trends, I’ve never kept up with the Kardashians, never played Pokemon Go, not on TikTok etc. Sheep don’t notice other sheep, but they notice the wolves, and the wolves embrace that fact. I don’t care if some people don’t like me, or even hate me, I’m not going to change who I am to gain your approval. Enough people like me that the one or two who don’t won’t matter, and for so long as I maintain that ratio? Well, that’s how you get popular. Be kind, be honest, be humble, be you, that’s the recipe.

I also don’t dream of fame, at all, I dream of success. I dream of making just enough money that I don’t have to budget for a month or two in advance to buy the things we need, that’s all, forget about mansions and limousines. I’ve had a taste of fame before and I didn’t like it because you literally can’t do anything without some random wanting to get close to you and ask you dozens of questions while you’re trying to go about your business. There are plenty of celebrities who dislike fame, including our man of the hour, Johnny Depp. Take a look at the list.

4. Would you rather urinate in port-a-potty or nearest bush?

Port-a-potty, anyday. As long as the treatments don’t contain formaldehyde, they’re actually quite environmentally friendly and they use less water than a normal toilet block. I was a happy camper for many, many years, so they’re what I’m used to. Festival loos are gross, admittedly, but then I don’t like festivals, soo…

Also, if you’re curious, check out this list of some of the most amazing places in England and Wales that I have camped at, all for five nights each and for much less than even a single night at Glasto:

a person canoes out on a lace, suggests winning, success, canoeing, kayaking, boating
Sometimes winning is a casual cruise, not a race to the finish line 😉

5. What new beginning are you excited about?

Blog growth. I’m currently about 1,850 views away (and averaging about 50 a day) from matching my best-ever readership, so I’m very excited about that. At the start of the year it looked like my blog was just sinking and sinking, to the point that, to be honest, I’d told myself if this year didn’t work out for me then I was just going to close it down. I’d come at Kinky With A Twist with an idea, but maybe it wasn’t going to work? Maybe I wasn’t cut out to be a blogger.

But then I started implementing some tips and tricks shared by my WordPress friend and fantastic fellow blogger, Pooja, and slowly but surely, those numbers started coming up. I was almost in disbelief at first because it seemed too good to be true, but it was really happening! In fact, just today my readership exceeded last month’s, so really, thank you for reading me – It’s people like you who make my blog a success!

At a guess and at a rate like it has been, then it will take about 40 days to reach and exceed my best-ever readership, and my 34th birthday is in 45 days. Will my blog be over the line and into growth in time for my birthday? I’m very excited about that prospect! You know, this year has been tough, compounded by realising that my parents were also abusive, and knowing that my family doesn’t support what I do. My Mum is planning to be in Wales for my birthday, and she’d planned that a year in advance, which kinda sucks (birthdays are usually a family affair). This blog really matters to me, and at times, it almost feels as though my survival depends on it. My success is effectively a two fingers up at the people who said that I couldn’t, or wouldnt, or who just wanted to see me fail for whatever reason. My success is an indicator of the fact that I really can do good things when I put my mind to it, that I really can be my own boss, and that you should never, ever, underestimate the stubborn one with a dream.

Bonus: Burrito or Tamale

I had to do my research and find out what a Tamale is (I’m familiar with burritos, enchiladas and even flautas, but not Tamale), but I think definitely burritos. I don’t like the taste of corn, so that would probably put me off. You can keep the guac too – advocadoes are the devil’s food!

That’s it from me for this TMI Tuesday! Join me next week for the next round. Do you have any questions for me for next week? Don’t forget to leave them in the comments below!

Until next time!

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen xx

7 thoughts on “TMI Tuesday, 26th July 2022

  1. I really liked the answer you gave about becoming famous. People are so inauthentic these days especially with the rise of social media. It’s like they will do anything to become famous and everyone who is famous acts the same way. It’s so easy to tell when someone is faking it and I see so much of that on social media. We need more real people in the world.

    1. Thank you, I definitely know what you mean. I blocked a guy’s channel on YouTube last week because he swears so much in his videos and tries to act really dramatic and opinionated, but really you can tell that he’s someone who is actually really shy and probably very sensitive. Inauthenticity drives me nuts, I feel like I’m being lied to (I suppose because I am lol). I’m me right off the bat and if you like me, great, if not… oh well.

      It’s probably also why I’ve never made YouTube videos, I don’t know how me on camera would be. If I know me, it would be three minutes of intro, then me rambling on about about the cute dog I saw at the park for the next twenty minutes 😂

      1. Urghh yeah that would annoy me too. It really sucks when people do that.

        Lol yeah YouTube is just not for people like us. I would much rather stick with blogging 😜

      2. Haha exactly. I swear, but I swear emphatically, I don’t just swear because I don’t have any other words to use. Believe me, this girl is never short of non-offensive words to use, I’m known to talk once I start lol.

        Haha I’ve considered it but I just don’t know. There seems to be a lot of nasty behaviour on Youtube and I want no part in that.

      3. Same here. I have no problem with swearing but it’s annoying when someone forces it just to be “edgy.”

        I feel like there’s so much hate on YT compared to WP and I don’t want to deal with that lol.

      4. Exactly, especially when you know you’d just have to look at them and they’d probably call for Mommy lol.

        Haha exactly. If you even have an opinion that’s different from the masses… well…. it’s been a pleasure, Pooja 🤣

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