Disclaimer: This post mentions topics involving consensual sexual violence. Not suitable for individuals under eighteen years of age. Reader discretion is advised.

You’ve read our pages and yet, maybe you still want to know more. If this sounds like you, take a look at our personally recommended books below. Some of the guidance that we have given will cross over with these books, but that’s okay, several knowledgeable voices are always better than one!

We don’t receive any commission for recommending these books either, they are all read and recommended by us, from personal experience and as resources that we’ve read and used to get us where we are today.

Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns

For the S&M enthusiast, this book is a must. Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns makes impact play and sensation play fun, exciting and interesting for both parties. It also covers a lot of health and safety of BDSM in great, easy-to-read detail.

Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns, £32.11, Amazon (available from £9 used)

The Loving Dominant

For those who are nervous that ‘kinky’ means never having hugs or kisses again, this book is for you. The Loving Dominant teaches you how to love your partner both romantically and in a way that they want and need. It’s mostly aimed at heterosexual Male-female couples, but it could be adapted to suit.

The Loving Dominant, £9.49, Amazon Kindle

When Someone You Love Is Kinky

Preparing to have ‘that’ conversation? Consider keeping this book in your arsenal. When Someone You Love Is Kinky takes on some of those whats & whys, and answers them for you. It’s not an exhaustive guide and so it might not be a panacea to all of your partner’s challenging questions, but it can still help to get the ball rolling.

When Someone You Love Is Kinky, £9.49, Amazon Kindle

Two Knotty Boys: Showing You The Ropes

Are you raving for rope? Then you need this book! As a rope enthusiast myself, I learned to tie some very basic knots and ties in only an evening or two. Before you pick up your first bundle of rope, learn how to tie it, and tie it well.

Two Knotty Boys: Showing You The Ropes, £7,19, Amazon Kindle

Hell On Wheels

For disabled Dominants, Raven Kaldera shares their story, along with the experiences of other disabled Dominants. A must-read if you’ve ever felt as though you don’t belong in this lifestyle!

Hell On Wheels, £3.77, Amazon Kindle

Kneeling In Spirit

Another book from Raven Kaldera, only this time, from disabled submissive partners. It was recommended to me by a good friend of mine and proved highly beneficial in quashing those feelings that I didn’t belong. If you too have a physical disability like I do, now is your chance to read from other disabled submissives who also make BDSM work for them.

Kneeling In Spirit, £3.84, Amazon Kindle.

Just F*ck Me!

One for the good boys who have partners who want them to be… a little less good! Just F*ck Me! helps to break through the thoughts and feelings towards rough sex and BDSM activities in loving romantic relationships – from women, written for men!

Just F*ck Me!, £3.99, Amazon Kindle

We hope these resources prove invaluable for you and will see your first (or next!) steps into this wonderful world as they helped us with ours. We wish you every success and much happiness on you newfound kinky journey!

Until next time,

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen & Matt xx